Being in an abusive relationship is incredibly difficult. It can seem impossible to get out, and you have likely been threatened if you try to leave the situation. You might be worried about your life, and if you have children, you may be concerned for their well-being. Some religions believe a man is to rule over the household and be in charge of the woman and children. If you are in one of these situations, you need to realize it doesn't mean the head of the household can treat you badly. You have rights, and there are several things you should do if you are being abused.
Realize You Are in One
Believe it or not, there are many people who are involved in an abusive relationship but are in denial about it. They make excuses for their attacker's behavior, or don't see it as abuse. Some common excuses used are:
They are just stressed about work right now. If I did things right the first time, they wouldn't have to get angry and hit me. They only get like this when drunk; it's the alcohol that makes them violent.
The fact is, there is no excuse for your partner's actions. If your partner is hurting you, whether it's physically, mentally, or emotionally, you need to realize you are in an abusive relationship. It is only then that you can get help and get out of the situation as soon as possible.
No matter what has happened, you need to leave the situation. The person may have threatened you and told you if you leave, he or she will kill you, your family, or him or herself. If you feel your life is at risk, then contact the police to arrange a time you can leave with an escort. The police department can give you resources for a safe place to stay.
You should also look at churches for resources. There are many that have programs for women and children who are in an abusive situation. If you are a member of a church, it should be easy to get information. If you are not part of a church, you can call around to see if there are any resources available to you.
Many people who are in abusive relationships keep it to themselves, though those who are closest with them often suspect. If you are in a relationship where your partner or someone else hurts you, it's important to tell someone. You are going to need a support system while you get out and try to establish a new life, and the more people you have helping you, the better. People can assist you in many ways, whether it be financially, by providing a place for you to stay, or by simply being someone for you to talk to.
Men Can Be Victims Too
The vast majority of domestic violence victims are women. However, men can be victims as well. It can be harder for men to get help than women. In the United States, there is a Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women that would be a great starting point. Call it to find out what your best options are. Don't be afraid to ask for help just because you are a man.
Abuse Doesn't Have to Be Physical
Oftentimes, abuse is quite obvious. If your partner is leaving bruises or other marks on you, then it's easy to tell you are being abused. However, just because your partner never lays a hand on you doesn't mean you aren't a victim. Emotional, mental, and even financial abuse is very real.
If you are in an abusive situation, please don't hesitate to get help. No matter what you believe, no man or woman should deal with domestic violence.