People adopt children for a variety of reasons. Perhaps a married couple has been trying to conceive for several years, only to find out it's nearly impossible for them conceive on their own. Some people adopt because they recognize there is a serious need and that there are many children looking for homes. Occasionally, a person will adopt his or her family member's child because the family member is not fit to care for the child. This may be a grandchild, a niece or nephew, or a cousin. No matter the reason, if adoption is something you are looking into, there are some things you should consider. It is definitely something you should think through, as this is a very important lifelong commitment. There are many ups and downs in the journey of adoption, so you should be sure you are prepared to handle them. If you are looking into adoption, here are some things to consider.
You probably already know this, but adoption can be incredibly expensive. This is especially true if you are looking into international adoption or going through an adoption agency. Adopting internationally typically costs an average of $30,000, but this number can vary widely depending on a variety of circumstances:
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In America, adoption runs around $30,000 as well. This of course depends on the adoption agencies, and some have a fee that varies based on your income.
Those who are looking to adopt but don't have $30,000 laying around can look into adoption through foster care. This sometimes costs you nothing at all, but usually doesn't cost more than a couple thousand dollars. However, you have to consider that the foster care system can be pretty gnarly, as there are many children who have parents who are fighting for their right to regain custody of their children. Because of this, adoption through the foster care system can take years, especially if you are looking to adopt a baby.
It's Emotionally Exhausting
There are a lot of highs and lows when it comes to adoption, no matter what route you choose to go through (international, foster care, adoption agency, etc.). It can take years to get matched to a child if you are going through the adoption agency. Many mothers prefer to choose the adoptive parents, and you are competing with many other couples. Internationally, it can take a long time because of government red tape that can take what seems like forever to clear. Foster care can be quick, but usually if you are looking at adopting a younger child, it will take a while, and while you are fostering the child, there is no way of knowing you won't have to relinquish him or her to his or her birth parents.
Raising a Child is Expensive
Of course, the cost doesn't end once you have adopted the child. You are responsible for providing medical care, clothing, food, and the list goes on and on. This will cost you a pretty penny in the long run. Some estimates say you will spend hundreds of thousands of dollars per child. Of course, there are many ways you can reduce the cost, but it is a big financial burden.
It's Worth It
Despite all of this, it is all worth it in the end. Sure, children are expensive and the process of adoption is truly exhausting in almost every sense of the world, but the blessing you bring the child and vice versa is worth much more than you can ever imagine. If you are 100 percent committed to having a child, then adoption may be the perfect choice for you.